Changing the Paradigm of “Broken” Relationships I try to stay away from calling relationships that at one time were intimate or relationships that produced children as “broken.” We need to change the paradigm. Those relationships are no longer what they were, but they didn’t break, per se. They ended as intimate relationships. The people in them changed or were mistaken with what they had. They ended at intimate relationships. Childless couples still take with them a history of life together. Couples will children also have a history between them and always remain parents of their children. This doesn’t mean there isn’t hurt, rejection, anger and unfairness. It means, if we try to change our vocabulary and name it something else, the way in which we think about and handle our relationships will shift, too. Hopefully.